Do soul mates really exist?

This has got to be something we have all spend at least some time of our lives thinking about. But do we have the answer? Do soul mates really exist? If they do, will we ever find them? Will we be happy with them? Is happiness confined to one person? Can one person have just one soul mate?

These are questions that really have no answer or have a lot of more unanswered sub questions. One cannot help but ponder over them. It is indeed fascinating as to how something so specific can turn into something so vague? Is the need to find your soul mate an excuse to keep the hope for a perfect relationship alive? To keep going and to keep growing strong? Is it just a figment of our imagination? Does the mind’s eye look beyond the perfect relationship? Can we accept the imperfections in our soul mate and yet call him a soul mate? Would he even be a soul mate then?

Firstly, what are soul mates? A soul mate is a different soul yet similar in ways more than one. A soul mate is one who integrates with your soul so as to share your thoughts feelings and understanding and coping with your way of life and yet being able to find happiness in what you do. Your soul mate is the one who makes you feel easy and comfortable and strong. Another soul on the same wave length as you are. So knowing what soul mates are, the question now is, can we find them if they exist?
Well what I’ve always felt is that soul mates do exist. But I don’t know if we always find them, We being some of us. A reading I had done once ages ago told me that we chose everything in life. God puts the options in front of us. And it’s our will and it’s our free will. We chose what we want. Right or wrong, the choice is ours. If we desire right, one cannot imagine the extensive gain but a wrong choice compels us to face the dire consequences. Consequence is a negative word for me. How can there be good consequences? They wouldn’t be called consequences then! We chose our happiness. Happiness lies in so many things that once again we opt for like family, friends, lifestyle, career etc etc.

Yes surprising as that may sound, we chose our family. Before we are born, its our soul that decides. We are all souls. And coming to earth is like a really long lecture in a really far off school. We come to earth to learn and once we learn and complete our life’s mission or purpose, we go back to being souls again. Its during the initial stages of our soul existence that we chose our families or the people that matter. And yes once again, its our choice! The concept of free will is a little hard to understand. For me at least. A free will can have so many definitions yet so few.

Now let me get one thing straight. A soul mate is not confined to a single person. What I feel is that an individual can have more than one soul mate and this soul mate doesn’t necessarily have to be a love interest. Suppose u get along great with your dad, and share the same experiences and thoughts and perceptions and a handful more, I say that by all means your dad can be your soul mate!

Once we enter the dating game, we enter a different league all together. Then suddenly everything and everyone seems so different. And hence we search our soul mate in the motley of people around us. I always say variety is the spice of life and what variety we have. And seriously, life is nothing without something spicy and something out of the ordinary. So now you may ask me, what if I don’t have some one like that? The answer is, sure you do! You just havent found him/her yet. I do believe that there is some one for everyone but I don’t know whether happiness is guaranteed and confined to that one person. So its quite possible that you may find some who ends up being your life partner and you just cant seem to find your happiness with that person! So naturally, he cant be your soul mate! So do you go out there and search for your soul mate? Well I don’t know if searching has been the solution for decades because nothing can be that easy right? Maybe we just have to wait for our soul mate to come to us. And what if he doesn’t? Well, of course he/she will at some point and some form in your life. It’s up to you to recognize and accept the person. Many a times we don’t know what we have until it’s gone and many a times the perfect person is in front of us but we shun them away either cause of the futile attempts to recognize them or cause they seemed too good to be true. If something seems too good to be true, it probably is. But then isn’t this the time when the saying comes to mind, “nothing is perfect or no one is perfect”.

Gosh this life sure is mystifying. I’ve concluded a lot of things. One is that yes, everyone does have a soul mate but not necessarily in the same form! Yes we will find our soul mate but it is up to us to recognize the soul mate. The options are laid down in front of us and it’s our free will and our decision to make. Yes, our soul mate will bring us happiness. So next time you think about a soul mate, think for a minute if you have some one who is closer than close to you. Think of all the people you know and think of the one that makes you the happiest. All of us have at least someone whom we can look up to or look beside and know that the person will be there no matter what! And if you don’t, then just be patient. Your soul mate is probably on his/her way booking tickets just to be near you whether you know it or not ;)